8 Things You Might Be Doing That Completely Ruin Your Dates
September 12, 2017
So you did it. You texted the girl. Or the guy. And they’ve actually agreed to go on a date with you. But now there's more to it than that. You've got to actually go on the date. After all, it's a lot of pressure. A study done on Facebook says that if you make it to the three month mark, it's more likely that you'll be dating for four years or more. So how do you avoid botching your chances?
1. Being Late
Timing is tricky. Do you want to be that person who shows up exactly at 8:00? Or will you look a lot more cool and casual if you get there at a smooth 8:07, because you had some important business to finish up? A few minutes is acceptable. But being super late is not. If there’s a true emergency, you should forgive and forget. But if this is your date’s habit, it might be time to ditch them.
2. Being On Your Phone
It seems totally obvious. When you’re on your phone, you’re saying you’re more interested in whatever or whoever is on the screen than the real life human individual who’s in front of you. But it’s surprising how often this habit is a complaint. The Macquarie Dictionary even invented a new word: phubbing. That’s phone snubbing, and it’s a huge pet peeve of mostly every dateable person out there. If you’re absolutely dying to check your phone, do it while they’re on a bathroom break. Or seek a therapist to find out why you need to check your phone so often.
3. Talking About Your Ex
This is something that everyone knows: don’t talk about your exes on the first few dates. You probably know someone out there who has a great horror story about someone who wasn’t over their ex, and ended up being crazy because of it. Don’t let that story be about you. Of course, you’re going to have to talk about it at some point, but try not to do it within the first few hours of meeting someone new.
4. Dressing Wrong
Okay, so how do you dress wrong? It depends where you’re going. But usually, you’re probably going to be going somewhere nice. Don’t wear shorts and a t-shirt to a fancy restaurant - your date will notice if you’re not putting in effort. Vice versa, you’re probably going to look a little odd if you wear a suit to go bowling.
5. Only Talking About Yourself
We’ve all been there. Your date thinks they’re the bee’s knees. Want to know what they did at work today? How about that really cool thing they did on vacation five years ago? Remember when they won prom king? Sure, you want to learn more about the person you’re dating. But it’s important that you ask the other person questions about themselves. If not, it will seem like all you care about it you, you, you.
6. Making It An Interview
Okay, we know it’s hard. When you’re getting to know someone, you ask them questions, and they answer the questions. Then they ask you some questions and you answer. What’s that sounds like? A job interview. It’s almost unavoidable. But be honest. Your date doesn’t want that lofty, pre-prepared answer you’ve got up your sleeve ready to wow and impress that potential client or employer. They want to know who you really are. It’s easier said than done, but when you’re being genuine and real, people will notice.
7. Being Rude To The Service
We don’t care where your date is, really. But chances are that wherever you go, there’s going to be someone working there. Whether it’s the waiter or the attendant at the miniature golf course, treat them like they’re real people. The way you treat your server or attendants is a representation of how you treat people in the real world who you’re not trying hard to impress. This doesn’t go unnoticed. And if you’re caught checking them out? Check please.
8. Saying Any Of These Phrases:
-I have 8 cats
-I forgot my wallet.
-Isn’t my wedding ring pretty?
-Here’s a picture of my mom!
-Want to meet my invisible friend?
-You remind me of my dad.
-I’ve only been to prison twice.
-Do you mind if I brought my brother?
-What’s your name again?
-I love you.
-I don’t like pizza.
-I liked your Instagram from last April.
You’ve gone on Hush and you’ve made it this far. Now make sure you don’t make any of these cardinal date sins.